Taken From The Conversation With Client X :: ( There’s no context given. Nevertheless, it may be useful for you too. )
I am just going to share a few thoughts and perhaps they will serve you, perhaps you’ve already thought of them, or…
Item #3 : Use a schedule and only allow yourself to speak to people on Thursdays during the hours of 1 to 4 pm, for 30 minute blocks, and make it a non-negotiable for you.
Of course there will be one or two people you can make the exception for.
Everyone will understand, in fact you don’t have to tell anyone that you are batching the phone calls. Just do it, say I will call you Thursday at this time...
Get them done, and then don’t think about it anymore.
You could even create a voice message saying that you will call them back on Thursday, so that you are not reacting to others demand for you.
The upside of doing this is great, the downside, you might actually be the one wanting to reach out to everyone because you are enjoying it on some level you aren’t aware of, such as feeling useful and not helpless.
Might this be the perfect opportunity to create your schedule, to use your time, as you have desired to? 1. By saying no to others, and 2. By creating the rules of your own game?
Item # 5 : We are in a moment of active surrender, letting things unfold as they will, while letting go of our desire for controlling what we can’t control anyways.
It can be challenging to allow ourselves to layback and let go, particularly for the reasons you stated in Item # 4, ‘survivor guilt’.
The uncomfortable truth, is that there will always be something to feel guilty about, and feeling guilty about it, generally causes more suffering, and more suffering generally causes more suffering.
I know you are a logical wizard and can argue against any point if you wanted to, but surrendering to what is, and then finding the peace within what is, should be foundational work for anyone who is in service to others.
Personally, I believe people don’t give enough credence to the power of a calm presence, a surrendered being who is at peace as much as one can be in all situations, but specifically, I mean to say, that this state of being emanates far and wide and doesn’t always require outwardly driven action to be at affect.
What would it look like, feel like, be like to surrender to the moment and let go of the desire for ownership and control of that which you can’t own or control?
I will leave it at that for the moment, but I hope they are more than just words for you, as words are easy…
*Dialogues with Clients & More, who are challenged at this time, which is unlike any other, yet similar in its ways.*