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Turn Me On Coaching The Ethos of Freedom & Felicity

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“Run from what’s comfortable. Forget safety. Live where you fear to live. Destroy your reputation. Be notorious. I have tried prudent planning long enough. From now on I’ll be mad.” ~ Rumi

They were upset with me for being honest, for speaking my mind, for refusing to submit to living my life by someone else’s rules and regulations.

And that was the moment that I knew…

I’m different and I embrace that choice.

If you understand the ethos behind what I’m sharing here, than you and I very well may be a fit for a unique relationship.

If you do or desire to embrace the idea that we create our own excitement, our own joy, and our own success however you measure it, then let’s speak.

Email me any questions you have at: [email protected] 

One Insight Changes Everything:

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Have you ever experienced the power of an insight, an ‘ah-ha’ moment that shifted everything for you?

Imagine having insight after insight around any area that’s slowing you down?

You would move right through it with grace and ease. 

  • What if you have a powerful conversation and your life is changed forever? You might just want to keep having them.
  • What if this one investment in yourself leads to continual abundance and fulfillment? I’m talking about investing in your idea, in your self, in your inner knowing. You might just keep investing.
  • What if instead of looking for instant gratification you go for mastery. What if you said to yourself, “This is what I’m doing and nothing is going to stop me.”

Say that a few times and tell me how it feels.

That’s the power of a mission worthy of you; that’s how you turn on the world.

That’s why we will plunge-in.

You will gain clarity and then follow it with action so powerful, so fulfilling, that you will have no doubt what it means to live a turned on life.

You will be it, the very essence of life itself.

My Life Is About:

  • Exploring consciousness and the mind
  • Writing and Reading
  • Athleticism
  • Liberation for the individual
  • Human Potential
  • Performance Philosophy
  • Mindfulness
  • Having Conversations With Amazing People

Turn Me On Coaching Is About Me Turning You On To Your Inner Knowing and Then Not Letting You Stop Until You Are Turning On The World.

Email me right away at [email protected] and we’ll transform the world together.

Momentum Is Magic…

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Today’s story is a tale of momentum, a tale of floating with the wind, a tale of letting go and entering the stream.

It’s a short story, with few characters, few words, and a simple plot.

The character, you.

The plot, distraction steals your mind from your future.

The outcome, you choose.

And in all of the wonder we find ourselves maneuvering in a million different ways, playing upon a landscape of distractions, of stretched thin desires, and in all of it, the flattening of our movement.

And in this we discover what we already know, momentum is the magic that creates miracles.

Keep Your Momentum Around The One Thing You Know Will Change Everything!

Find a person in your life that refuses to allow you to lose your momentum and watch the magic and miracles come about.

It’s up to you to find that person.

Unconventional and Bold It’s Your Life

The Story of Awakening Miracles In My Life…

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The Journey Into Coaching and The Path Of Internal Expression… ( a personal story and why you might step into this realm as well. )

Life, love, adventure and the willingness to struggle and embrace the ease, the grace, and the chaos that is life…

It’s a strange loop of sorts that took me from one exploration to the other, to the uncovering of a curious desire to express all that life has to express in whatever form that may be.

And then to desire that for others to see and experience for themselves, to see what I see and understand, that in a deep way all of our lives are make believe.

There are no rules other than the rules we desire to follow at the moment we desire to follow them.

And when we can see that we have a completely new world to create from.

The freedom to express ourselves and to live as we choose exists as a reality right here right now.

And it was freedom of possibility that turned me on and continues to do so, the freedom to control our direction in life, our attititudes toward it, and the freedom to allow for whatever must be expressed to be expressed.

Thre is nothing more important in my life than freedom and the allowance on my part, to free that expression to come about as it must.

But there are massive challenges that come along with setting your standards high, with taking ownership of your own existence, and with accepting responsibility for everything that comes or doesn’t come.

It forces you to become an expert on yourself.

And that, to the dismay of most, is a life long process that carries on forever.

And most people want to be done growing, so they stop learning, stop expressing their desires and dreams, and they close up and shut down their inner voice.

I do it, have done it, and will contiue to do it too.

My desire for comfort has kept me at times, from living the wonderful life I often desire. It’s just how it goes sometimes.

But I love these obstacles, as these obstacles show, I am called to step up and honor the struggle and transformation.

At a fairly young age I saw for myself the confusion of the adult world. I saw the way people put power down on others in any way they can, unknowingly, most of them do, and most of us allow for it unknowingly as well.

When you see it, it transforms you instantly.

I saw it when I was young. It came from friends, from family, from teachers and coaches, and it came from msyelf as well.

I have never seen the world the same since.

But seeing and understanding are the beginning, and to this day, I have my struggles, and I’ve had my triumphs.

But they’re mine and like sharing your own night time dreams with a friend, it’s your dream and doesn’t have the same sense for them as it does for you; nevertheless it gives us an insight into ourselves and into the other.

And this chapter of my life has become something different than I expected it to be.

For example I made a choice a long time ago that my time was my number one desire to keep and use for myself as I imagined.

So I’ve spent the last 15 years free from working a 9 to 5 job, free from working too much on anything other than what I wanted to be working on, so I spent years meandering around cafes, having conversations with strangers, with friends.

I’ve sat in on many classes at Universities whenever I found a class that inspired.

For fun I did a psychology internship with a professor who was studying near death experiences in terminally ill patients.

Because of this huge amount of free time I was able to spend an entire summer reading Russian Literature while meandering under the clouds of the North West, U.S. all while continuing to pursue my desire to understand and know freedom, self expression, and the nature of reality.

It goes on and on and on. Amazing days, amazing struggles.

And then life shifted and I started to get bored, and so I began exploring whatever else might come, whatever else might inspire.

And for now it became about creating a bundle of money and wealth while doing work that is in alignment with the way I want to experience and play in the world.

And it’s a journey I’m going through right now.

When I was 19, I convinced three of my closest friends, friends who had very little money to each give me all that they had in savings.

I’ve been studying finance and I had chosen a stock that I knew we could make money on. At this time in my life, money and the money I didn’t have was a motivation for me and excited me enough to wake up every morning when the market opened. This was 1994.

They gave me what they had, I had to give it to my father to invest for me, because I didn’t have the right status yet to have my own accounts.

In 3 months we saw a 20% increase and all my friends wanted their money.

That was a glimmer of my mindset.

At some point things shifted and the human condition took over my life, my mind, and my desire to know an explore.

Reality shifted completely and it continues to do so.

When I was about 22 years, I gave up looking at the world in the way I once did.

There are a million different experiences wrapped up in my life, and so what I share here I choose to share out of a particular relevance to where I’m at in life at this time.

So for the last three years I’ve been living out of a backpack, traveling the N.W., a bit in California as well, studying and teaching, exploring consciousness with amazing teachers, immersing myself in the depths of humanness.

I own a beautfiul bicycle, a computer, a vitamix and a few different bits of clothing. I rent rooms and I go on journeys when the journey arrives.

I have conversations with people who want more out of their lives, as I do for myself.

And now I’ve chosen to create something different, a new adventure, to teach and coach, to share what I’ve learned, what I have seen, what I have experienced over that time, wrapping up the psychology, the conversations, and the coaching experiences all of it aimed at being and Expert On Yourself.

It’s been like this for me for a long time, being my own guru is a must. Psychological freedom my great desire and expedition. It’s the conversation I live for and the experience I want to share with others.

And I’m going to let that conversation happen in as many ways as it wants to come, and in all the ways I want to share it, but feel hesitant or shy to do so, I will do it anyways.

My discomfort, my insecurities, my shyness will not win.

Life is the strangest art form I know, a continual stream of creation, of judgements, of conclusions that are continually being destroyed in order to create.

It’s about freedom to be and express our desires and wants, even in the challenge that they are.

We’re born. We die. And somwhere in all of it we build and create a life in some form or another.

And I am creation itself as are you.

Mirrors, Magic, and Who You Believe Yourself To Be, A Brief Glance Into Your Human Transformation From Your Point Of Being.

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Could there be a magic word, a secret phrase, a tonal movement in a sequence of words that will bring about an awakening within you, a transformation between you and reality?

Ah…

What a question, what an idea, what an obsession to have.

It’s one that has driven me in peculiar ways and I imagine for you, there are things you say to yourself, ways you talk to yourself that in one sense or another, open a portal within, a door into a universe that is only for you and you alone.

A metaphor I use as a state of being is, ‘Questing The Unknown’. This is a metaphor for exploring all that is and all that with think we know about life, the unknown, which is each and every moment before us.

It can open you up to experiencing life in magnificent ways, in fact, it asks of you to go experience for yourself what your life is, who you are, how you work, which philosophies speak to you, what principles create, discover, and live through you.

It says to you, “You Know”.

It says knowing will always have to come through you, because that is the only place it can come from, because, “You do know”.

Could it be a portal or a path to freedom, knowing that deep down within, that you know.

It’s a creative act.

When I am working with clients in a coaching context, I will share with them many possible ways of looking, constructing, and experiencing life.

I want them to wobble free of their past just for a moment so to see things differently.

For example take the idea of the mirror, the metaphor, you are it.

You are a mirror and the world in many ways reflect back at you what you are reflecting into it, thus you are it.

It’s a an act of the imagination.

Here’s a thought experiment for you, what does life look like, how do you experience it differently, when you play with the idea that you are the mirror for others to see and experience themselves?

What happens when you ask yourself to open up to accepting and receiving your own wants and to do it in a way where you recognize, as the mirror, that the world outside of you actually wants to assist you in getting what you want?

Let’s take this a bit further shall we.

As the source of everything around you, after all, you are the mirror, and everything outside of you is a reflection of your being whomever and whatever you choose to be, what environment would you reflect back into the world so that the world would create an environment where your gifts, your genius, your wants, would best be expressed?

I will say it again, with slightly different language, if the world around you were to be a direct reflection of who you are being, who would you have to be so that the world around you supported you in expressing your creative potential?

This is a different way of seeing the world within you and without.

We are playing with the notion that you are the still point of all that is around you and within you. It’s a type of model of reality if you wish, sometimes referred to as a mental model, a way of seeing reality, either consciously or unconsciously.

It’s basically acknowledging a delusion about life, but then using that as a powerful step to create your world.

In fact you might want to take a look at this truth that I share with my clients and anyone else who is open to questioning and discovering life for themselves.

We are simultaneously playing a game, where we color reality with our beliefs, our emotions, our conceptions about all things; yet at the same time, for some, they transcend the conceptions and recognize that this is indeed, metaphorically, a game, and thus they are free to create the game they wish to play, and thus, the ruleset.

Imagine that!

You are phenomenally creative and exceptionally capable as you are right here right now, that you can literally create the game, add the obstacles and the challenges, and then play the game, you invented.

I want to implant an idea into your head, but don’t read this sentence, unless you are ready to open a portal in your being: **We are all living in the imagination. The question is, whose imagination are you living in. Yours or theirs? **

This is a question worthy of taking your time with.

All of what are speaking of here has the potential to transform your relationship with reality and with the creation of your life.

Imagine for a moment that we are all living by a set of beliefs, conceptions, and programmed identities, that is identities that have been molded over time, usually by circumstance, rarely by choice.

Now imagine that you and I are in conversation about you and your life, your feelings, your emotions, your desires, maybe your lack of clarity about what you truly want, maybe about what you believe you actually do want.

We are going to find ourselves in a bit of a tangle, aren’t we.

Because, how can we know what you actually want, how you actually want to experience life, if we aren’t in conversation beyond the identities and beliefs and constructs of who and what you think you are?

That often becomes a question that leads right into understanding the deeper truths about ourselves, and when lived and experienced it will free you, maybe not 100%, but you will know something has been transformed within you.

I don’t know how it works, but it does.

If you could eavesdrop on conversations I have with my clients, you would recognize that this is exactly where we go in every conversation, even if it isn’t explicit.

For example, when we begin our conversations I will often ask what my client wants to get out of the session, and what’s intriguing is that what they initially say reveals itself not to be the thing at all, which is why it’s so important in this work to hold space, to be willing to be silent, to let the client speak out what they must so they can get to what they actually want even if what they think they want initially, ends up being completely unrelated to where we go.

It’s in this way that we will often have to be lead to seeing things as they are so we can be free of the constraints that appear real, but actually aren’t.*

What this often looks like in coaching conversations, with clients who I have been working with is remembering that the challenge they are facing now, present time, was a challenge they wanted to take on.

That is, we are often consciously creating rewarding challenges and situations so that we can experience more of life itself, so that we can experience more of the joys and beauty that it has to offer us.

However, it’s easy to forget that. Which is why in the case of this client and all clients really, I will intentionally lead them to the knowing that they created this, they chose this, and then I will reflect back to them why they want what they want.

Humans, as much as we wish to believe it’s not so, need to re-oriented back toward their vision, over and over and over again.

I believe it’s one reason a lot of people don’t want coaching, because they know they are going to be held to account to themselves, and that can be frightening

Again, that need for knowing ourselves, for being willing to look right into our own reflection and acknowledge the truth, is a heroic play, and the choice to do something about it, can feel like embarking on a heroic journey.

It may be or it may not be, but the only way to know is to look and see for yourself.

Perhaps the world is a reflection of your own inner projections.

It may be, but there is one thing you will absolutely come to understand, whatever the world around you looks like, you aren’t a mirror reflection of it.

You are a mirror reflecting back into yourself, over and over again. And you will look outside of yourself to find evidence that the world reflecting within you aligns according to what you believe it to be.

Are my words true?

We are using language, words, phrases, internal sounds and conversations, to find freedom so you can live your life as “You Know” you want to.

You are questing the unknown.

Perhaps the next step in this exploration of knowing, is to understand, how you can create your wanting in a way that actually is beneficial for everyone else.

And thus your wanting is truly a win win for the world as much as it is for yourself.

I will leave it here for now, but there are a few questions I want to pull from the words above that you can explore and play with.

  1. What if I actually am mirroring back others?
  2. What if they are mirroring back me?
  3. How do I experience myself when I am free of manipulating others ideas and perceptions about me?
  4. What does it mean to create my life from a state of being?
  5. What identity am I believing to be true that isn’t serving me any more?
  6. What identity would I like to believe to be true?
  7. Am I building a self-image or deconstructing one?
  8. What does it mean to go questing the unknown?
  9. Finally, what do think I mean when I say, “You Know”.

To creation,
Emeric Damian

* If you enjoy these types of conversation and want more of it in your life, you can join my email list here. Please note, I write and share often and I will make offers to you because I want you to experience how beautiful life can be and I know that you have so much more to offer the world and more importantly to offer yourself that it would be a disservice to you and to myself to not do my best to pull the best out of you… *

p.p.s. Here’s where I am working from at this moment in time, a small fishing village called Ericeira. It’s surf reserve now, a surfer’s paradise, other than the freezing cold waters. For me, it’s a home for a time.

This Transforms Lives But Not All ( An Episode of The Coaching Dojo Game )

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#CoachingDojoGame

You have found yourself here for reasons I can not yet know.

What you will find here are updates from me over the next 3 weeks that have to do with a game.

How might you benefit from this work.

Ah…

That will be for you to discover.

If you actually want to participate in a more intimate way, you can email me here and I will place you on my email list: email Emeric at [email protected]