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What I am going to say, what I wish to share with you, if I do my job well, will transform your relationship to everything, to your life, to your self, and thus with other humans and non-human animals alike.

It’s a grand statement to make, because it is a lie.

I can’t transform your life, though I can.

But you…

These words are for you to discover for yourself, what I know to be absolutely so.

But my knowing, my experience, is mine.

You must find out for yourself.

Here it is as plain as I can say it.

“You create others by the way you listen to them and thus, you create yourself as well.”

“The way you listen, is your way of speaking, both with words and without.”

“You can listen to another as you already believe them to be, whether they are or aren’t as you believe; you can listen for something you wish might be so, whether it is or isn’t; you can listen to the possibility of life unfolding in a mysterious beautiful way; you can listen to another and create them as you listen. Mirror mirror on the wall…”

The way you listen to yourself, will create your relationship with yourself, and your relationship with your self, is the only relationship you will ever have, the only relationship you can ever have, even as you are in relation to others, as others are always you.

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That last paragraph…

You see, I said I would give it to you simple and as straight as I can, but then, it just flows from me, as if it’s not me, speaking through me.

You know me well enough to know, what is easy to say, to do, to live, is never simple, as easy is too simple and simple is too easy, so we must make it more complex.

Let me put it differently.

Tonight I was in conversation with a few coaches, life coaches, spiritual coaches, coaches’s coaches.

And a question came up, something like, “What bells and notifications usually go off in your mind, when you are listening to your clients? What are you listening for?”

…and the answers varied…

…but they were in rough alignment, all along the lines of, we listen for “false assumptions, limiting beliefs, negative self talk, judgements of others, worry, misplaced anxiety… etc..”

These are all goods things to be aware of, indeed and I will point these things out too, but none of these can ever be what we should be listening for.

Do you known why?

Exactly…

We are going to find what we listen for, even if it may not be there, even if it is, even though it may simply disappear upon listening.

And I share this with you because, what was implicit, in what they were sharing, is one of the things I find most deplorable in relationships, even though it can be absolutely helpful to attend to, yet, it’s deplorable to me, when people are listening for other peoples ‘garbage’, ‘foibles’, ‘hypocrisy’, ‘poopy doopy’, and crap.

It’s like everyone is playing a game of “GOTCHA! You fucked up and now I am going to tell you all about how shitty you are, how incapable, how lazy, how narcissistic, how overbearing, how sad…” Whatever it may be.

Listening is the most difficult thing to do, so deaf we are. It’s easy and that’s what makes it so hard.

My profession, you see, is an art form, because I have to be aware of everything I have shared with you above; yet, it’s not what I listen for, ever, even though at times I have, so guilty I am, of everything that one might be guilty of, so hyperbolic and dramatic I can be, forgive me.

Onward…

What I listen for, even in my imperfection, is the beautiful realizations that you will have when you start listening to yourself, and then when you listen to yourself again, but with a different mind for hearing, sensing, feeling, and loving what it is that is flowing through you, and then when you listen again, knowing that the way you listen is the way you create, as your listening is speaking your being, into being who you are.

That is why I listen to you as the possibility you posses even though you may not know it.

However, what I primarily listen for is the experience of you discovering how unnecessary it is for you to be anything other than you are, as you are in this moment right now.

It’s the greatest experience to experience… Once you get that… Then the pleasures of listening shift again.

…as you create from that space of needing nothing, while having it all, as you wish…

The pleasures…

That is my great gift in life, to listen to all of it, to hear the mystery, to allow for grace, to embrace the emptiness and meaninglessness that threads through life…

And then to turn around and reflect back to all of those who are near and far, the serenity of simply being.

It’s easy, which is why it’s not simple, nor hard, nor complex, nor easy…

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Hugs and love you sexy gorgeous human being,

Emeric Damian

p.s.

May you have what you want in life and may what you want in life be in alignment with your highest values, and may you thus be fulfilled in having what you want.

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My darling,

Life…

There is bread in the oven, fresh, steaming, and so satisfying to tear into.

Four ingredients: water, flour, salt, and yeast.

It’s so simple…

Four everyday ingredients and yet so many people screw it up.

Pizza dough, the same four ingredients….

And so many terrible pizzas in the world…

It’s so simple…

Yet…

What of your life?

Do I dare say it is so, so simple, yet you screw it up all the time.

Isn’t it so.

The toast is burnt, the bread is dry, the pizza flavourless, a salty tear from your eye.

Four ingredients: water, food, sleep and breath…

It’s simple isn’t it.

But we are humans.

It’s our nature to create, to play, to experiment, to cause mischief in our own lives, to burn the toast by ‘accident’.

It’s fun, it happens, it’s life.

It is fun, except when it isn’t and it often isn’t, even when it is.

That last part gets us in trouble, “even when it is,” as we begin to believe that life is primarily heavy, torturous, a true terror to behold…

Work, struggle, stress and fear, keep pushing the rocks up the hill, today and tomorrow do the same, because if you aren’t in pain then you are clearly insane.

“Everyone is suffering, so you should too. If I have to suffer, so shall you. I know you think you are better than me, well I’m better than you and now you will suffer my judgments too.”

And you do.

You take them on as if they’re your own, the judgments of others; you carry their fiery stones.

“Drop it! Let it go! Your hands are burning”, they scream, “let it go, this is not a dream”.

“Oh precious one, are you searing your spirit with the words of another, with the thoughts that you believe to be true, thoughts that sting your being as their lies run you through?”

You are a precious one; your ‘life’, which is you, is precious; you have been given the gift of existence.

I know you already know all of that, all that has been shared here.

Nonetheless, life compels me to share with you, as I do.

It reminds me of that poem, you know the words:

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“You shot your arrow, into the sky,

You laid upon the earth knowing,

the arrow, also came to die.”

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Here’s to being thought insane in a world that thinks it isn’t,

Emeric

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p.s.

Perhaps, today is a good day to respect the four lovers: sleep, water, food and your glorious beautiful body breathing as it so wonderfully knows how to do.

Everything else is important too and we will talk about that soon, because I have something for you.

It will transform your life, if you want it to.

also…

Coming Soon::

1. Relationships And The Ridiculous Nature Of Being In One.
2. Knowing What You Want While Living Without Needing To Know.
3. Why World Building May Be What You Are Missing In Your Life.
4. The Guardian and The Guru, The Guru Is You & It Is The Only Way It Can Ever Be & What That Means For Your Future.
5. Mischief, Debauchery & The Silliness Of Following The Rules.
6. And for those who are interested, “Portugal, A Different Way Of Living” will be available soon.
7. I just like ending on the number seven so I will. Hugs and love silly butt.

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*If you aren’t sure how you ended up here, then fantastic, welcome once again, to the wonderful world of Emeric Damian’s creation, a land where nothing is everything and everything is more than it seems. We explore, whatever we want because it is in our nature to share, as the art of life wishes for us to share. May you find value in it or nothing at all, because both are perfectly fine, and we don’t mind. Loving you and loving you some more you sexy, curious, mysterious gorgeous being. ( click if you have forgotten anything here )

Welcome my friend,

You have been invited to enter into my kingdom, my world. 

…a world where the imagination is turned on by wonder and curiosity, a world where you are given access to new ways of thinking, shifts in perspectives, and if all goes well, perhaps a new found freedom to create yourself as you desire.

You will learn more about self-creation and the joy of choosing. 

Our relationship will turn you on to yourself in ways you’ve never known, in ways that guide you to taking care of yourself in the most beautiful and powerful way you can imagine, whatever that looks like for you…

Our relationship is about “being” the journey, not just thinking about it.

You are an explorer, an adventurer, your life is about the discovery of a dream, of a life to uncover, of a masterpiece to create.

Paradoxically it is about already being in the living of it ( We will explore the great paradoxes soon ).

You are a movement toward an understanding of your existence, a play in the world that gives you the opportunity to express the fullness of your desires, to be free to explore and tease out the experience of life as you desire, or as it desires for you.

You are the guardian of your story, and both of it and in it.

What story would you love to live?

That’s for you to discover,
Emeric Damian

It must be stated…

Simplify, simplify, simplify by doing less…

…not doing more.

And to remind you that the world wants your attention, I melted together a video clip from 1979 that I found on youtube, a clip of archivial footage that was capturing the soon to be future.

It had already happened and it will continue to take you if you don’t allow yourself to attend to what’s important in your life.

Your life is your life…

You don’t have to give it away to others, unless you wish to.

There’s not much more that needs to be said.

You will be challenged to create space and time for what matters most to you.

But it’s a challenge worth taking on.

You could look a this as the triple threat or better yet, a convergence of ideas that birth a kind of superpower in the individual.

This can be thought of as a protective mechanism that is being applied to a way of doing life.

In this doing you are taking on a way of being.

Is it useful for you?

Is it a hindrance?

On your quest to know yourself, to see and experience what works best for you, as a way of applying and perhaps letting loose your superpower, your incredible ability to bypass the critic, the sound of doubt, and the inner voice that doesn’t belong to you, even though it pretends it does, you will be gifted the power of speed, completion, and ‘good’ is great.

The faster you can move in life with regards to those things where moving fast makes sense and even in cases where it would not seem to, you have tapped into a new potential.

It takes practice to be the creature who lives in that regard.

Then again, you may take right to it.

I hope you do, because I know it will serve you if you allow it to.

It has the ability to remove the force of procrastination and non-doing, when everything in you wants you to do, and then you find yourself going for walks instead.

Walks are wonderful, but not when you’ve gone for your thirty third walk to the cafe while carrying the weight of knowing you are not doing what you wish to do, and thus, you seem to be doing what you wish to do, even though that is not what you wanted.

Perhaps the system of all systems is desire and wanting…

Perhaps wanting and desiring are not enough.

There’s only one way to find out and that is to find out.

So find out for yourself and see what comes.

There are times in life where you want to transform yourself.

There are moments when enough of being one way is enough of being that being.

There are choices living before you, waiting for you to take to them, to court them, to ask for their power to be transmuted into your being.

Now, now, now…

Wait a minute?

And that is the cycle that you’ve been partaking in for a long enough time to know that it will no longer wait, as waiting is a disease of its own kind.

Now…

Yes or no…

Never a moment to express a sentiment true…

The now is standing, waiting for you.

There’s a philophy of existence, a way of taking on a beingness of the nowness, not a now as in now is all there ever is.

Which is a platitude to deflect the truth of the now.

No, this is a question of living in the question of choosing to take care of this now, so to move on to what’s next.

The cause of now, is the cause of then, and what then often is an unknown, but it only comes when there is a cause.

What a curious way to unravel what’s so, by choosing to unknow so to know.